Keys to Successfully Parenting the Gifted Child eBook

Keys to Successfully Parenting the Gifted Child

by Deborah L. Ruf, Ph.D. and Larry A. Kuusisto, Ph.D.

You may not even know if your child is gifted or not. But if you have a bright-eyed, curious child, this book can help you.

Authors Ruf and Kuusisto write for parents who are new to the idea that their children might be intellectually advanced or gifted. The book addresses important parenting issues, including what to actually tell your child about his or her giftedness, how schools approach learning differences, best ways to provide emotional support, sibling rivalry, and more.

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Introduction: Parenting gifted children - keys for success
What should parents know?

Part I: What does intellectually gifted actually mean?
Why is it even called “gifted”?
Won’t the school tell us our child is advanced?
How do we get the “proof” we need?
How does knowing any of this help us to parent better?

Part II: What are some important parenting issues?
When you’ve learned your child’s level of ability, what should you tell your child?
Ability differences
How can we estimate our child's abilities compared to others?
Learning differences
What are some problems related to a “wrong fit” in school?
But, isn’t elementary school where every child gets “the basics”?
Learning differences are always there—in or out of school time
Waiting to learn
Maybe we’ve given our child unfair advantages
Typical school structures put a lid on bright children’s learning
Where do gifted children get all their information?
What about getting a “big head”?
Bright children are often lonely or feel “out of place” in school
Difficulty with pacing in school

How do schools approach learning differences?
How do schools decide who will be in each classroom?
What does it mean to have a mixed ability classroom?
Parents need to educate themselves about schools and giftedness before their children start school

Parents also need to know the difference between:
Good grades: How important are good grades? When might grades matter?
Compliant behavior: What is compliant behavior? Doing “well” in school might be misleading
Real learning: What does real learning look like?

Part III: Non-school parenting issues and responsibilities
Don’t forget who’s the child and who’s the adult
Authoritative parenting makes children feel safe
It takes a village …
What should parents provide for their gifted youngsters?
A parent’s job is to notice what the child’s natural talents and interests are
Provide flexibility to learn what either fulfills them or supports their best talents
If school won’t provide it, you can!
Better to be well-balanced than well-rounded
Even gifted people encounter “necessary hoops”
Compliment and love your children for their “essence”
Give your children life skills

Part IV: Additional parenting issues
Sibling issues require special attention
Sibling ideas
Ideas for the “The Annual Trip”
How can parents work with the schools?
Observe, visit, look at your options
For their children’s primary grade years, parents should become a part of the school community

Important final keys to successfully parenting the gifted child
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